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Commendation from clients
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Bindingsterapie met Dr Bernie Dagety
Liewe Dokter
Ek en Chloe het vir vyf sesies gegaan wat elk 'n spesifieke element van binding aan geraak het. Ons het Chloe 'n kans te gee om van haar frustrasies op 'n speel-speel manier ontslae te raak; gewerk aan vertroue bou; gekyk na hoe sy speel en my by die spel insluit en ook gewerk aan intieme spel. Chloe het gegaan van waar sy maklik na enige iemand sou gaan tot waar sy duidelik kies om by my te sit.
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Bernie was 'n baie goeie spieël vir my. Sy het elke keer baie goeie terugvoering gegee oor hoe sy die groeiende band tussen my en Chloe gesien het. Bernie is baie gemaklik in haar rol en was 'n baie goeie fasiliteerder van die bindingsproses. Dit is ooglopend dat sy baie omgee dat daar 'n diep band tussen ouer en kind ontwikkel en het praktiese raad om dit te help gebeur.
Vriendelike groete
Leanor
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Dear Dr. Bernie
On the 7th of January 2010 we were contacted and advised that there is a beautiful baby boy and we had been chosen to be his parents. We were of course beside ourselves with joy at the news. The time came to fetch him but not without its fair share of fears for me, will I be good enough, will we bond, will he like me.
It was suggested that I schedule Bonding sessions with Dr. Bernadette Dalgety. Two weeks later we met for our first session and every week thereafter for four weeks.
Wow, what an amazing experience to deal with Bernie. You are immediately put at ease and made to feel comfortable. My baby was mesmerised by her, her look, her voice, she was just so gentle with him. I know that Oliver and I would have bonded naturally, but having gone to Bernie just showed me how to utilise everyday moments and things to help us to strengthen the bond while teaching baby and strengthening his little body.
I would recommend to anyone who is adopting or has difficulty forming a bond with their baby to have these sessions with Bernie, she helps you even where you don't think you need help.
Bernie, thank you so much for all you have done for us and for always being there to lend an ear when I have needed to chat….God brings people into our lives for a reason and I am so grateful that he brought you into mine.
Love
Stacey & Oliver
SO YOU WANT TO ADOPT… NOW WHAT?
Vir meeste mense begin ouerskap met tradisionele idees van die huwelik, swangerskap en kinder geboorte, waarna hulle die kind sien groei deur die kinderjare, adolesensie en uiteindelik volwassenheid, as deel van 'n volledige gesin. Die realiteit is egter dat daar in Suid Afrika etlike egpare en enkellopende mense is wat nie kinders van hulle eie het nie, as gevolg van omstandighede buite hulle beheer of as gevolg van hulle eie keuse. 'n Opsie wat deur al hoe meer mense uitgeoefen word ten einde 'n gesin te bou, is aanneming.
Adoption is quite simply, creating families. In South Africa, adoption allows people to create loving and safe homes for children who otherwise might not have had these. Adoption is no longer only an option for people who are unable to conceive, but also becoming an alternative to those who are aware of the desperate need for safe and loving homes for existing children, who are in need of care.
Aanneming is 'n proses waardeur 'n volwassene volle ouerlike en wetlike verantwoordelikheid neem, vir 'n kind wat nie sy biologiese kind is nie. Aangenome kinders het dieselfde regte as ander kinders en aannemende ouers het dieselfde regte en verantwoordelikhede teenoor die aangenome kind as wat hulle teenoor 'n biologiese kind sou hê.
THERE ARE DIFFERENT TYPES OF ADOPTION:
Openbaarmakende aanneming / Disclosed adoption:
Openbaarmakende aanneming is in aangeleenthede wat die biologiese ouers van die kind en die aannemende ouers mekaar ken. Die mees algemene openbaarmakende aannemings is waar stiefouers of ander familielede die kind aanneem. Dit kom ook voor waar biologiese ouers 'n private reeling aangaan met voornemende aannemende ouers om hulle kind wetlik aan te neem. Wanneer Pleegouers, met die toestemming van die biologiese ouers, 'n pleegkind aanneem, word dit ook geklassifiseer as 'n openbaarmakende aanneming.
Nie-Openbaarmakende aanneming / Non-Disclosed adoption:
Hierdie is aannemings waar die voornemende aannemende ouers en biologiese ouers mekaar glad nie ken nie. Indien 'n kind geabandoneer is en sodoende beskikbaar is vir aanneming, word dit ook geklassifiseer as 'n nie-openbaarmakende aanneming. Die biologiese ouers het 'n keuse om voornemende aannemende ouers te kies, met profiele van die ouers wat aan hulle voorgelê word. Die proses word deur die Maatskaplike werker gefasiliteer en word daar 'n ontmoeting tussen die aannemende en biologiese ouers gereel indien verkies maar addresse word nie verstrek. Fotos en briewe via die Maatskaplike werker aan die biologiese ouers word ondersteun.
As a result of a long and slow moving queue for adoptable white children in South Africa, more and more people consider adopting cross-cultural, including, coloured and combination white/coloured children.
Nobody can adopt unless screened by a Social worker, who is accredited and registered as Specialist in Adoption work.
According to the Children's Act 38/2005 post adoption agreements can be drawn up, if in the best interest of the child.
SCREENING OF APPLICANTS INCLUDES:
- PARENT TRAINING CLASSES
These help you to understand a child's need and help you decide what type of child you can parent best.
- INTERVIEWS
These may be individual / joint interviews or both. Interviews will help the Social worker better understand your family and assist you with an appropriate placement.
- HOME VISIT
This is to make sure your home meets your state licensing requirements. Oftentimes, the home visit and the interview can be done at the same time.
- HEALTH STATEMENTS
You will be required to have a complete physical to show that you will have a normal life expectancy and that you are physically and mentally able to care for a child.
- INCOME STATEMENTS
The purpose of an income statement is to prove that you are financially stable and that you handle your finances responsibly.
- BACKGROUND CHECK
A criminal and child abuse background check must be done for obvious
reasons.
- PROFILE
This is to help whoever is helping you to make a good match.
- REFERENCES
The person / agency will ask you to supply names and addresses of people you know in various aspects of your life to provide them with a range of references. These will give the Social worker a well-rounded picture of your family.
- PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSESSMENT
- GUIDANCE ON HOW TO TELL YOUR CHILD BEING ADOPTED
- BONDING SESSIONS AFTER PLACEMENT
If you want to know more, contact Dalene van der Walt 082 379 2537
Mrs. E.M.M. van der Walt
Registration no. 10-10679
Accredited Social Worker in Private Practice
Specialist in Adoption work
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